21. October 2021

‘It looks a lot like addiction’: Kids battle technology dependence in lockdown


For Melanie Kai Murray, the lengthy months of lockdown have wreaked havoc together with her makes an attempt to maintain wholesome limits on technology utilization for her three teenage sons.

Her sons Mackai, 14, and twins Noah and Nathan, 12, have been spending hours on units for college but additionally to socialize with buddies and play video games, typically as an alternative of their college work. Ms Murray and her husband Peter have tried all the pieces to maintain them on activity, asking to see their screens, or ship PDFs, or allow display sharing.

Parents Melanie Kai Murray and Peter Murray with their sons Mackai, 14, and twins Noah and Nathan, 12.

Parents Melanie Kai Murray and Peter Murray with their sons Mackai, 14, and twins Noah and Nathan, 12.Credit:Rhett Wyman

Despite dwelling two minutes from Manly Beach in Sydney, Ms Murray says the “immediate gratification of the screen” has turn into so alluring it’s typically arduous to get them out the door, they usually may complain of boredom if the household spends a day on the seaside.

“Getting them back to nature, I think will quickly help children bounce back,” she stated. “If you don’t, it could start to become an imbalance of what the world is and they could become highly connected to social media and other technology, which I’d find concerning.”

It is pure for kids – and adults – to be utilizing extra screens throughout a pandemic and particularly throughout a lockdown, when college and work are on-line and social and leisure actions exterior the house are curtailed.

Greater Sydney has been in lockdown since June 26, whereas Victoria has been in its present lockdown since August however has spent 250 days of the previous two years in lockdown.

The downside is worldwide. A Canadian research, primarily based on a longitudinal research of 1000 moms and their youngsters and printed in the Acta Paediatrica journal in June, discovered youngsters’s display time elevated by an hour a week from age 5 to eight pre-pandemic however as COVID-19 obtained underway, it rose by 11 hours a week between the ages of 8 and 9.5.

Other research have proven correlations between display leisure and anxiousness for younger adults, whereas Facebook whistleblower Frances Haugen has revealed Facebook internal research displaying the damaging results of Instagram on teenage women.

Despite the inevitability, many dad and mom are involved and sharing struggle tales in the playground or on social media about youngsters who hunt down their iPads in the midnight, throw tantrums when units are eliminated, and are depressing after they get taken to the park as an alternative of being allowed to play video games.

One Sydney father, who requested to be nameless, stated his 13-year-old son had lately developed a behavior of watching TV exhibits on Netflix whereas additionally gaming, and will get very agitated if his dad and mom ask him to cease doing each without delay. His seven-year-old daughter watches YouTube and goes into a “deep grump” for half an hour when she stops.


“When we call a day off screens, we end up going through hell,” he stated. “It looks a lot like addiction.”

Jocelyn Brewer, a Sydney psychologist who specialises in digital wellbeing, stated it was solely correct to name it “addiction” in actually important instances, however there was positively a rise in ordinary utilization, and he or she anticipated an inflow of purchasers.

Ms Brewer stated technology together with communications and gaming was compelling as a result of it met many of youngsters’s psychological wants – reference to others, growing competence and discovering their strengths.

Ms Brewer stated that was not a good factor if the youngsters had been solely getting it on-line.

“What I do with kids in therapy is look for sources of connection, competence and control in the offline worlds as well,” she stated.

“We know that you can feel really, really confident doing lots of things in Roblox but can you do that in the playground? Can you do that in handball? Can you do that in maths? So it’s about mimicking that back in ‘real life’.”

Parents Melanie Kai Murray and Peter Murray with twins Noah Murray and Nathan Murray and eldest son Mackai Murray.

Parents Melanie Kai Murray and Peter Murray with twins Noah Murray and Nathan Murray and eldest son Mackai Murray.Credit:Rhett Wyman

Another mom stated she had display locks on the iPads earlier than lockdown however misplaced management as a result of she needed to take away them so her youngsters may entry Google Classroom.

“My son is usually very active and we’ve noticed he’s become much more despondent about going to the beach, using the pool in our complex or even meeting friends, preferring instead to remain hooked to the screen,” she stated.

“My kindy girl meanwhile switches her screen to watch mindless dribble of ‘perfect’ Barbie and is already displaying signs of lack of confidence in her appearance and weight.”

Anna from Northcote in Melbourne, who requested to make use of her first identify solely, stated her six-year-old son gravitates to his iPad and typically performs on it earlier than she will get up in the morning.

“I’m concerned about the effect on his attention span and imagination but I wouldn’t say there’s any particular occasions where I’ve been completely alarmed,” she stated. “We’re trying to wind it back and he’s getting into reading.”

Sarah Cohen from Lewisham in the interior west stated her six-year-old son, who has ADHD, was getting aggressive when it’s time to complete on the iPad, so she has resorted to pretending it’s misplaced.

“I feel a bit of guilt but it’s been a good thing for him – it’s really just eliminated so much of the conflict and calmed down with his aggression, Ms Cohen said. “He is more interested in his toys and puzzles, he is more interested in interaction with us.”

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